drowning
Adding new things onto your plate can affect your whole household. I GET IT.
Because if, right now with the skills and tools you've already got... if you don’t have what you need to float through life with your current set of obligations, what happens the second someone tries to make you swim?
You’re going to drown as soon as you stop.
Put THE RIGHT resources and support in place for yourself before you: - start a business - enrol your child in more therapies - take on a new project - hire a coach - commit to volunteer work - go on a reality show - help a friend with a huge task - take 3 months long service leave from parenting (omg imagine) - or significantly change your lifestyle in other ways. Here’s a cheat sheet of questions to ask yourself when you’re considering taking on something new, or someone in your life is attempting to add responsibility to your plate:
AM I BUOYED CORRECTLY & SUPPORTED, OR AM I THE ONE KEEPING MYSELF FLOATING?
if I weren’t performing highly right now, would my daily life still be sustainable without any changes?
if I were hit by a bus and hospitalised for a week with no phone, what would the effect have been on my home and business & what will be broken/ruined by the time I return home?
what home & business/job supports can I 100% rely on to happen without fail? (Paid or free, as long as they’re sustainable they count.)
WILL I DROWN? - If this new thing takes 2 hours a week, how much effort will that 2 hours drain me of? Not every hour in the day is equal. - will this responsibility HELP me swim or float? If so, long or short term? Or does it ONLY help other people in my household? - In the next 30, 60 and 90 days- will my life have MORE complexity or LESS if I add this in? - In the BEST CASE dream scenario after adding this into my schedule, how does my life look in 1, 5 and 10 years?
WHAT HAPPENS IF I START SWIMMING? - if I do this thing, what will be impacted first? - what/who will be impacted the most? - how much energy, effort and focus does it take? - knowing it’s unlikely I know the full picture of how much is involved, how can I create a buffer of time, energy and focus BEFORE taking it on? - what other things will I have to eliminate to make it happen? - what will I let go of, to make the room for this new thing in my life? - in the WORST CASE scenario, how could my life be negatively impacted in 1, 5 and 10 years?
Write the lists.
Learn the skills to consistently float, because people assume you already know how. Everyone loves trying to get you to swim in THEIR way. Using their strokes and methods. They won’t be there to see you drowning the second you stop swimming.
Look, just trust your intuition.
If you believe you can’t do something, you’re probably right.
Evaluate the ‘new thing’ using this list, then make a plan for what’s needed to add this ‘new thing’ into your life.
You’ve got this.
Kat Abianac xo
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